Imagine a day where there is perfect harmony and sync between you and your children. A day when your child does not throw any tantrums. A day which seems like a cakewalk and there is absolute peace and then suddenly your toddler screams. Ahh your dream has ended!😓
Off course like a normal person you feel like yelling back at them.However, you have to contain your anger.
We all go through this as mothers. We all do face toddler tantrums at one point or another.
Let me share my experiences:
The other day my elder one was playing with blocks and we were about to start with our dinner. I had to ask her to wind up and come and eat with us. And there she was standing and yelling at the top of her voice “Mama I want to play I don’t want to eat”.
Now my task one was to calm her down
Task two was to make her wind up her activity
Task three was to make her eat dinner
What I followed her was my mantra of Respond and not React !!!
To tackle tantrums like these I tried a couple of things which really helped me at times
When you become a mother, there is not formal training provided, you have to learn by our own experiences and go through the time experiencing of trails and errors .
During this period I found a powerful trick, and this has really helped me out.
Whenever I am face a situation where my toddler is throwing a tantrum with regards to transitioning from one thing to the other I count from 1 to 10.
This counting is not to scare the child saying if the child does not listen they have to bear the consequences. But this counting is to give them time to prepare to transition from one thing to the other.
This way my task number one and two both were taken care. So when I give her time, my child knows when mama starts counting what is to be expected
My big girl hates going to the bathroom in the morning. Taking her to the bathroom used to be a task for me. Both of us were having a tough time.
Once I sat down thinking the whole day what is so not good about the bathroom visit? Obviously ,I did not come up with immediate solution but I tried a few things before I had a breakthrough idea which has been a blockbuster success for me.
I asked her if she would want to go to the bathroom with someone else besides me and she accepted the offer immediately
So her dad took up this responsibility willingly and this has now become part of our routine. The first bathroom visit of the day is with Daddy dear😊
I am sure you all must be wondering the reason of this “Bathroom drama”? It was because whenever dad used to take her to the bathroom he would let her play with water. And I never did that as I use to rush her through the bathroom chore which she totally disliked.
My Learning through my experiences :
What made me realize was Children are aware but they cannot always communicate what they really want.
Our little ones are not giving us a tough time in fact they are the ones who are having one.
The key is consistency in our approach, in every little thing we are trying to achieve with our children
We need to be little more observant, pick up the nonverbal cues, partner with them, be kind to them and make the journey of growing up a memorable one!!
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