How Can we develop intra Personal intelligence in children??
Intrapersonal skills are internal skills, perceptions and attitudes that occur within a person’s own mind. Intra-personal skills can be learned in the same way that we learn math and language skills.
Children with intrapersonal intelligence are aware of their intelligence. They know what goals they want to achieve and what they need to do to achieve them. They learn from their mistakes and often enjoy individual work.
Lets see how we as parents can help our children develop these skills:
Develop trust in children:
a. It is trust that makes one feel safe and secure,brings contentment and gives us a sense of our own self-worth and allows us to value those around us as well as to empathize with another person’s plight.
b. The concept of trust is being taught from the time an infant is born.
Will a cry be answered? Will a need be met? Is there comfort to be found?
c. Within the answers to these quests, the infant discovers that trust is only the beginning. As parents and educators let us make sure we are around and beside them when the child needs us
Communicate and converse daily with children:
Daily circle times in school or bonding times in family can add to a smoother, transparent and effective getaway of communication which will help children to understand themselves and the other person’s point of view.
Develop neural association:
a. Participate as a family in an action that neurally associates to happiness. Every time this action is practiced it will connect us to our inner self that defines happiness.
b. For preschoolers use rituals and practices that engage the five senses: Sight, Hearing, Touch, Taste, and Smell.
Create Eureka moments..to get thet AHA factor or WOW factor:
a. Teach and train children to discover eureka moments
b. Eureka is creating your “own” wow moment leading to happiness
c. Teach children to savour small moments like perfume of a vibrant flower or a sunset
d. Once children start experiencing beauty and magic in everyday life they will begin to experience it in all areas of life
The key however here is repetition!!!
e. Once children start repeating things or moments that bring happiness they get connected to themselves
f. As educators and schools we have to teach children to find these AHA factors in their daily routines and schedules
Teach them to love themselves and treat their body like a temple:
a. Temples are places of sanctity and purity
b. Teach children to treat their bodies as one
c. The way we would worship idol teach children to worship the body that the god has given them
d. Healthy minds reside in healthy bodies. The better we nurture our body and keep it healthy, the more powerful our mind would be.
e. Love it the way we love god and we would be adorned with physical, emotional and spiritual blessings
Develop a sense of gratitude in children:
a. Saying thank you has become more of a social etiquette for all of us.
b. We teach children to say Sorry, Please and Thank you as part of social development
c. The moment the child has taken something everybody pounces on the child to say “Thank you”.
d. Is that the right thing to do? Saying thank you is part of showing gratitude and it has to felt.
e. We need to teach children to express gratitude whenever they feel like and it not only after an event or situation.Expressing gratitude instantly shifts your energy
f. It puts you in harmony with your source of supply so that the good in everything moves toward you.
Good attracts good. Good gets you closer to yourself.
Teach children to practice non doing:
a. Children are constantly active experimenting and making sense of their surrounding.
b. Prayers or for that matter just sitting with eyes closed doing nothing teaches children to introspect and be connected with one’s feelings and emotions.
b. School should keep 10 mins in their planned time tables for non doing. Even 10 minutes every day will have a huge impact on their minds.
Teach breathing techniques to children:
Teaching children breathing techniques will help them be connected to themselves. Controlled breathing not only keeps your mind and body functioning at their best it can promote feelings of calmness and relaxation.
Teach meditation and its various forms:
a. Meditation means transforming mind, the mind should not be distracted with any activity.
b. Meditation can be watching birds or dancing where the child just doesn’t think about any other activity and has complete peace of mind.
c. We as educational organizations should encourage and teach different techniques of mediatation catering to the uniqueness of each chils.
Be a role model:
At this point in parenting, actions often speak louder than words:
a. Avoid white lies as adults. You do it children are going to do it. The lie can be as simple as avoiding a phone call saying
“Tell him/her I am not there.” The child is observing every action of ours
b. White lies just brings distances in knowing our real self
c. Also as role models show children that your happiness is not dependent on something .It is within you.
d. No situation or person can hamper your happiness.
Use stories as medium to connect with children:
Stories a wonderful way of connecting with children. Children using their own imagination create situations in their own minds which helps educators primary caregivers to connect to them.
Children learn about situation which they can associate with real life and can act accordingly in different situations.
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