Lets make our children independent
Our enthusiastic core team member shares her thoughts on the importance of making our Children Independent.
“I want to do it!” “Let me do it!” “I am not a kid!”.
Do you get to hear these phrases at your home? If so, welcome to the world of parenting, where a desire for independence display capability rule.
The first 5 years:
These years are considered to be the base years to make them independent. Dr. Maria Montessori believed that every child was born with the natural capability of being an independent individual.
“Any child who is self-sufficient, who can tie his shoes, dress or undress himself, reflects in his joy and sense of achievement the image of human dignity, which is derived from a sense of independence.”
Importance of Preschool:
Pre-schools plays an important role in developing confidence and making the child independent so that they can adapt themselves in different environment easily.
Pre-schools make sure that each every child gets a chance to express their views, thoughts and feelings, also the preschools help children to eradicate their fear and gain confidence.
The change begins at home!
There are few tips and tricks for the parents to make children independent:
a. Identify opportunities Make a list of things they could be doing themselves. Ask them which duties he/she feels they are big enough to take on—it’s likely to increase their willingness to try
b. Target priorities tackle one item at a time, so you don’t overwhelm them
c. Make time if it takes them 10 minutes to brush their own hair, start your morning 10 minutes earlier (and put down the brush!)
d. When they are not being micromanaged, they may surprise you with their co-operation, and you’ll be a calmer influence when you’re not racing against the clock
e. Negotiate compromise for instance, for a few days, you take shirt duty, and let her do the bottoms. Tell her that her tree branches (arms) needed their leaves (her shirt) and that she did a great job—and would also be awesome at putting on their own shirt
f. Forget perfection accept that children won’t do the task as well as you. If the milk spills, show them how to clean it up without criticism and assure that it happens to everyone
g. Praise something Instead of pointing out for e.g.: Shoes is on the wrong feet, say, “You put on your own shoes! Good job!” this way children will discover the discomfort on her own. Give positive follow-up like, “I bet you’ll get them on the right feet tomorrow”
h. Consider circumstances: If they are tired, sick, stressed or adjusting to a change, it’s not the time to introduce new responsibilities. And don’t be discouraged if they regress, wanting you to do a task after they’ve mastered it. This is normal
The key for holistic development of the child is Independence!!!
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